Today, I’ll write about what it is like to be a woman in India. This post highlights just one in the million incidents of eve-teasing, molestation, rapes, sexual discrimination, assault on women and plain ill-treatment women go through very single friggin’ day. Whether at work or at home, whether in a park or a multiplex. whether out with friends or at a family function, whether in a chauffeur driven car or in local-transport – it is always there. That slimy, creepy, hypocrite, shameless, lewd thinking about women some people have.
Lets start from scratch. A daughter is born – its a woman’s fault; result – abortion. A girl falls in love – result of “education” and “modernisation” or, as a politician put it, “result of using cellphones”; outcome – honor killing or social disgrace. A husband mistreats his wife = the wife can’t satisfy him. And the worst one: a girl gets eve-teased/molested/raped – she must be wearing short clothes/ must be of a loose character/ must have had seduced the guys. WTF man? This all incidents take place in the 21st century, every single day, in every part of India – be it the villages or the namesake – modern India. What pains me and angers me the most – nobody gives a thought to the victim, rather they rush to the defense of the offender. Heights of inflated ego, stupidity, stuck up morals and sick thinking.
For anybody who’s not aware, this article comes in wake of the horrific Delhi gangrape. However, this doesn’t mean AT ALL that I never noticed or thought about or talked about it. Every female in India does that, goes through that and has to suffer through that every friggin’ single day! You don’t need a hi-fi, G-20 esque, politicised report on how India is the most unsafe nation for women. Just ask any girl walking down the road, odds are that she most certainly has been eve-teased atleast once. The reason what this never stops? Because WE NEVER RAISE OUR VOICE! That is the reason why students and youngsters in the counts of hundreds and thousands swarmed to the Raisina Hill and India Gate. Its overwhelming and makes me feel proud to see women standing up. Its makes me happy to see that some cultured, intelligent men have joined them in this crusade. It makes me want to hold up m y head high that WE are the reason Delhi is shutdown today and politicians have been forced to listen and react.
The sad part – hooligans and wannabes who are trying to hijack the movement, the insensitive government, the stone – hearted president (didn’t utter a word), the mute Prime – Minister who comes up with the worst message ever (epicly disgusting), Sheila Dixit’s crocodile tears, Neeraj Sharma and Sushil Kumar Shinde’s (the CP, Delhi and the Minister of Home Affairs respectively) puke-inducing self praises and heartless responses and above all – the fact that WE NEEDED SOMETHING TO HAPPEN TO RAISE OUR VOICE! This whole episode (and countless others) could’ve had been avoided if the police had been vigilant, if some men could think of women beyond sex and if the politicians wouldn’t be busy looting our country for their pockets.
The man(?) who compared protesters to Maoists, Home Minister Sushil Shinde
Another example of inflated ego, non – empathetic thinking and backward appprach:
The man who justified police crackdown on protesters and says “I wont quit”. probably coz he feels no moral responsibility – Neeraj Sharma – CP, Delhi
Glimpse of the protest:
Glimpse of the crackdown:
If it isn’t enough, here are some more recent incidents which were forgotten quickly by the short – lived public memory
Read http://chandni.wordpress.com/2012/07/01/i-have-never-felt-this-alone/ , it is sure to send chills up your brains (did that to me for one).
Think of Guwahati case: a journo recorded footage for his news channel while a mob was molesting a girl. Sometime later, journo’s editor tweeted (hinted) at the chance of that girl being a prostitute. There is no limit to shamelessness.
Guwahati Molestation Case
Think of Keenan and Rueben who lost their lives trying to ward off hooligans and eve-teasers away from their female friends.
Think of those million women who go under daily abuse of some form or the other, just because they are women.
Think of the times when you’ve been made uncomfortable by street hooligons, road-side loafers, leeches in a crowded bus/train coach or just plain looking men.
Think about it, the girl who got raped and assaulted, the poor soul who is battling between life and death could’ve had been you, me or anybody for that matter. We need concrete steps, not just in terms of laws and legislations, but in terms of a change in the mindset of this broader section of our society which is programmed to think of women as the weaker-sex who can be ruled upon anytime. We need to learn how to respect women, how to treat them as equals and how to follow rules. We need to change our mindsets. We need to stop underestimating ourselves just because we’re girls. We need to choose the right leaders. We need to have the guts to slap a guy for passing a lewd comment on us. We need to have some self – respect and stand up for what’s right and what ought to be done. If we don’t start working NOW, there is no way to stop these demons
Disclaimer: I have written this article and criticised men while being fully aware of the fact that there is indeed a section of intelligent, decent, well-mannered men in our society who do know their limits, rights, duties and support women.